Obesity has become a major issue in the United States, and is especially alarming among school age children. While we may not all be classified as obese, losing weight or at least maintaining our desired weight has become a national obsession.
If you have found that diet and exercise alone have not been enough to achieve your goals, you may be interested in discovering a few new techniques that will allow you to uncover and overcome self-sabotaging blocks, and give you handy tools to support your efforts.
I have seven tips for achieving your weight loss goals. Here is Tip #2:
2 – Rethink Your Motivations
The following technique quickly and easily addresses self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors, and facilitates the decision making process.
Also known as “the pay off”, Secondary Gains is a strategy that assists us in determining what motivates our behaviors and symptoms, even when they are self-destructive.
Combining Secondary Gains with Parts Therapy (described below) is a swift and elegant approach to working with self-sabotage, blocks, illness, addictions, pain, and nearly every decision or quandary in life.
Anytime you sense that something is not right in your life, this technique will allow you to quickly gain access to the roots of these blocks. It is important to approach this exercise with honesty and be open to previously unknown information.
Honestly answer these four questions:
In what way is the extra weight a benefit to you?
In what way is the extra weight a detriment to your life?
In what way would losing the weight be a benefit to your life?
In what way would losing the weight be a detriment to your life?
By answering these questions, many people have determined their subconscious motivations for holding onto unwanted weight have included protection, softens the hurt, prevents promiscuous behavior, keeps people away, rebellion, refusal to be limited in food choices, etc. Comparing these answers to their values, however, demonstrates that there may be other ways of achieving their goals.