In Part 1, we discussed the types of decisions that we may face before choosing a particular body to incarnate into. These would require information and decisions concerning the body, the family dynamics, the opportunities that body will provide, knowledge of your purpose, and so forth. In making any choice, there is room for mistakes and life taking a turn in a surprising way. When we make a choice or a decision, it points us in a certain direction towards a particular goal.
Losing the way
What if we make a choice that sets us on a path that won’t get us to our intended goals? What would happen if the chosen path had nothing to do with our purpose?
Moving off course may slow a person down on a given path, but something can still be learned. Looking to the motivator behind a decision or course of action will demonstrate a rather important aspect of the personality. It will show, clearly, the value system of the individual. Wherever you are, there is something to learn if you just look around.
There are so many lessons for any soul to learn. Whichever one you are experiencing right now is just another one that you can mark off the list. If you are learning generosity instead of loyalty, then you can learn loyalty another time. Generosity is still a good thing to have learned.
The only real mistake is to stop learning or growing. Like our bodies, our souls thrive on constant feeding.
Improving our Decision-Making Skills
Here are a few premises to consider as you ponder and prepare for the choices you may face when decisions are required for your next incarnation.
• Choice is available to all souls regarding incarnation. We have the opportunity to choose which body we will incarnate it, and who will be our parents. There are choices concerning where we will incarnate – which culture, family, environment. Consideration can be given to when we will come into a body – the era, the moment, the astrology chart, the generation, and other specifics. Just because a choice is offered doesn’t mean that we will make the best choice always. Have you ever made a bad choice in this lifetime? How will that be the same or different when between lives?
• We do not become enlightened by simply dying. Therefore, what “runs us” in this life may continue to do so when making choices for the next life. The baggage that we have in this lifetime will be a dubious “gift” to our next incarnation. Working on our issues in this lifetime not only help you now, it affects your future lives, choices, opportunities, limitations and so forth.
• How do you make choices now? Remember the saying, “How we do anything is how we do everything”. Do you procrastinate, rely on other’s opinions and decisions, or oscillate between choices? Are your choices based on fear? Are they impulsive? Do your strategies include idealism, altruism, self-sacrifice, stubbornness, self-protection, coercion, persuasion, etc? Are your values clearly defined? Do you always live in alignment with your highest values – no matter what?
• How are your choices influenced? By habits, phobias, and addictions? Responsibility, irresponsibility, denial, avoidance, and evasion? Misconceptions, misinformation, and lack of vision or planning? Entity or spirit guide influence – beneficial or not? Based on emotions or clear reasoning? Your own highest values or values imposed on you by others?
• What happens when we have made poor choices? These may present opportunities to learn a different lesson – compassion, independence, or the depth of your personal strength, for example. Poor choices may be a cause of infant death, miscarriage, adoption, abandonment, etc. And they may be why people end up in abusive families.
These poor choices may lead to a feeling of dissatisfaction, frustration, or feeling you have lost your way or are off your path.
Learning better decision-making skills will improve all choices whether in this lifetime or in your future incarnations. While examining your decision-making skill, pay attention to those that turn out well and those that go awry.
Look for the secondary gain, or pay-off, of the decisions that lead you to those results. Ask yourself what was driving your decision? Fear, other people’s opinions, tradition, habit, culture, law, or your personal values?
Find ways to build courage and confidence into your character. This will require that you are honest with your assessment of your decision-making skills and their results. It will be important to identify your virtues and use them to gain and protect your loftiest values. Courage and confidence also relies on your productivity, which leads to a sense of self-worth and accomplishment. The more you build self-worth, the easier it will be to have confidence and courage!
What will you do today to enhance your decision-making skills?