As we delve into our spiritual path, we are required to deepen our understanding of ourselves, broaden our perspectives of the world, and come face to face with our shadow side.
You may have a strong belief in the spiritual realms along with a strong desire to experience that realm and communicate with your guides and others in the astral world. However, you may also have fears about what will change in your life if you proceed. There are many approaches, modalities, and techniques to assist you in overcoming blocks and fears. Freeing yourself of fears will be a vital step in strengthening your aura, accessing the spiritual realms, and liberating you to freely walk your life path.
First, let’s look at the three kinds of fear:
Rational Fear — also known as fright, it is based on true knowledge of the facts. This fright is usually based on an immediate threat such as coming upon a bear in the woods, or a severe storm kicks up while you are in a small row boat on the lake. This fear can be met by rationally determined actions.
Habitual (Irrational) Fear — Usually out of proportion to the real facts. It may be based on some real event of the past or something that vividly stimulates the imagination. Examples of this fear might be the boogie man in the closet, fear of leaving the house, fear of not being accepted, and most fears that people carry around on a regular basis. It can usually be overcome by restoring proportion.
Sudden Fear — May be caused by subliminal influences and unconscious perceptions. Examples may include having a sudden chilling thought, and other unexplained fears. These may also appear in dreams.
As a philosophical or personality issue, we are most concerned about Habitual Fear, which is a nebulous, undefined, projection of possible danger in the future that may or may not come to pass. Fear keeps us in the constant state of the flight or fight response. This means that our bodies are continually switching energy away from digestion, cell renewal and other regenerative and health-supporting activities, in favor of pouring adrenalin into our muscles in preparation for combat or escape—even though there is nothing to fight and no need to run. Interestingly, the brain and body do not distinguish the real from the anticipated.
From a spiritual perspective, we must also be acutely aware of sudden fear. This is addressed in the audio discussion available on my website:
Oftentimes that which we fear never actually takes place. We spend a lifetime fearing some eventuality that never arrives. It has also been discovered that we fear in wild disproportion to what might actually occur if life were to go in that direction. And the bottom line is that none of the fear—and the resulting anxiety, worry, distraction of it all—really does any good. In most cases, it reduces our ability to be intuitive or even present in our lives, and it leads to serious deterioration of our health and, particularly, our immune system.
Over the twenty odd years of my holistic practice, it became increasingly apparent that most, if not all, fears and blocks are steeped in philosophical distortions. Overcoming our fears and creating healthy change requires that we identify the foundational perceptions and beliefs guiding their lives.
I have divided the common philosophical issues that create problems in life into three categories: Fear-Based, Semantics Confusion, and Underdeveloped Philosophy. For now, we will examine only the fear-based issues. Let’s look at a few of the faces of fear.
- Trusting ourselves does not require being vulnerable to others.
- Everyone demonstrates their true values and virtues, it is up to each of us to recognize and act on that information. When we do, we learn to trust ourselves, which is the greatest sense of security.
When my clients claim their lack of trust prevents them from having a new relationship, I ask them to look back over their past relationships and tell me at what point they had all the information that they needed in order to realize that the relationship would end badly. Most clients respond that they knew within the first hour, date, or week. This is the quickest way for them to realize that, in actuality, they had not trusted themselves, (their intuition, gut, or better judgment). Had they listened to the loud and clear signals, and made the right choice in favor of their own best interests and higher good, they would not have had the disappointment, betrayal, or other negative experience.
Trust is about relying on our own observations and intuition, honoring our highest judgment and values, and acting accordingly.
- Control issues arise when we do not trust that we can handle events and experiences that show up in our lives. Our attempts to control nature, reality, or others, are impossible endeavors based in low self-image and a fear of incompetence. A better response would be to look at the possibilities and be prepared—learn martial arts, get in shape, create better boundaries, gain knowledge and skills, and work on our self-esteem.
- We can only ethically control ourselves—not others. Attempting to control others rarely produces the results that are truly desired.
I ask my clients what they really want when they are attempting to control others. Perhaps they really want love, respect, safety, or some other personal, internal, experience. Find other ways to achieve your real goals. It will be much more satisfying.
- How does guilt run our lives and shape our decisions? Who or what is creating the feelings of guilt?
- Guilt has one purpose. It provides information that makes us aware that we may have done something that is counter to reality or our personal philosophy. If it is true, then a correction must be made as rapidly as possible—and then the guilt can be dropped. If the feeling is found to be false—that there is no reason to feel guilty—then, again, there is no purpose in maintaining that feeling.
- Others may use guilt in an attempt to control another person. Just remember that no one can disarm an innocent person. To be truly innocent is a strong and grounded state of being.
If you are suffering from guilt, determine the cause. What is the origin? Who is imposing it? Did you do something worthy of guilt? If so, what are you to learn from this? What will allow you to drop the guilt? Do you need a conversation with another person? Do you need better boundaries, self-awareness, or self-confidence?
- While change is a good thing, most people say, “You go first!”
- Perhaps we need to be reminded that change is required for growth and improvement. If everything remained static, there would be no possibility for a raise, a better job, that new relationship, weight loss, and other goals.
- You cannot evolve without change. Change is your friend. Embrace it!
- Change may involve discomfort and adjustment. Comfort is not a proper life goal. It is a nice place for a temporary rest, but any journey will involve discomfort. A great metaphor is international travel. You want to experience the destination and the cultural differences, even the way it will impact your life and your soul. But to do so requires that you stand in lines at the airport, live out of a suitcase, put up with a different bed and unfamiliar plumbing, and alter your behaviors to avoid a cultural faux pas. Some people think it just isn’t worth it. Others invite the challenge so they can attain the richness of the goal.
Change means that we have to create a new groove in the old record. A quick way to usher in change is to imagine a version of yourself who has already accomplished it. Envision them standing in front of you, complete with their new confidence and comfort in this new way of being. When you have them clearly in your mind, take a breath and imagine stepping right into that version of you. Feel the difference, the liberation, the change already familiar. Ahhh, enjoy the new you as you move through your day from this new, evolved perspective.
Again, if you would like to access the full audio discussion on this topic, please click here.